At the University of South Florida in the late 1980s I was the only black person on the school’s daily newspaper staff. In 1990 I became only the second black sports writer in the history of the Pittsburgh Press. Often I found myself the only female in the press box. But none of that prepared me for the challenges associated with waking up every morning, the only black person in my household.
Raising White Girls is about the relationship between me, a black woman and my two white step daughters. The situation begins with my marriage to their father and how instantly me, the outsider, becomes the primary caretaker for these two girls as they grow into young women. The story includes confrontations and revelations about marriage, divorce, race, gender and parenting. And then there’s a wedding.
In Raising White Girls I explore the true meaning of family, which transcends race, biology and even divorce. As I struggle as a parent and the girls try to adjust to my parenting our bond as a family grows deeper. Whether created through marriage, adoption or tragedy (as with death of primary caretakers), families endure through love, common goals and a shared interest in being a family. A family is more than who you are. A family is also how you are, with each other.
About the Blog
Merlisa's blog is dedicated to exploring issues and events about women and race.
The blog is an extension of the memoir she is writing titled "Raising White Girls", the story of her relationship with her step-daughters.
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