When Tea Party members screamed that they wanted to “Take their country back” I wondered, from who? Now I know. Women. There will be a decline in the number of women in congress for the first time since 1978.
The Tea Party is made up of mostly white men who wish to turn back the clock. They want to "take their country back". As in BACK-ward.
So much attention was paid to the racial undertones spouted by Tea Party members, that perhaps we overlooked the sexist agenda.
During the CBS telecast of the Venus Williams match against Shahar Peer Saturday, an odd statistic popped up in the lower right-hand corner. Dress Tug Count: V. Williams 42, Peer 4. It was a fun jab at Williams, who seemed preoccupied with the clingy, form-fitting fuchsia outfit that crept up her rear during play. She needed to pull it down after each point.
Then my son asked “What (stats) will they put up for Nadal? Butt digs?” I laughed. But he had a point. Nothing is more distracting or disgusting than watching Rafael Nadal, the men’s No. 1 tennis player, dig into his butt after ever single point. John McEnroe alluded to it, but didn’t feel a need to address it head on like he did Williams’ dress.
Sexist? Double standard? Not really. Nadal digs because he does. He certainly doesn’t want to draw attention to it. But Venus has worn a different, disco worthy outfit for every match she has played in this year at the U.S. Open. All of the designs are from her own fashion line EleVen.
So Venus got what she was looking for, folks talking about her dress. But if you’re going to use the tennis court as a runway, try to avoid wardrobe malfunctions. And if female athletes set out to make a fashion statement, they better be prepared for statements made about their fashion.
Rush Limbaugh offered Elton John $1 million to perform at his wedding. John accepted. That’s all you need to know about both of these bitches.
When golfer Phil Mickelson embraced his wife after the Masters, how many of us thought, “Has he cheated on her?”
You certainly hope not. She’s recovering from cancer. Surely a man wouldn’t cheat on a cancer-stricken wife. See: John Edwards or Newt Gingrich.
Former New York Giants star Tiki Barber’s wife is eight months pregnant and he leaves her for an intern. What kind of man dumps his pregnant woman for a new babe? See: Tom Brady.
Jesse James is married to a beautiful Oscar winning actress. No way would he betray her with some common skank. See: Eric Benet, ex-husband of Academy Award winner Halle Berry.
Every time a prominent man gets caught in an extra marital affair, wives everywhere must think “Could my husband be cheating?”
The answer is yes. Statistics tells us 70% of all married men cheat. As women we know this going into marriage. So why, even with odds stacked against them, do so many women think they have a "30 percenter".
Of all the speculation, rumors and criticisms surrounding the Tiger Woods scandal, none upsets me more than the complaints from black women that all of Tiger’s “mistresses” were white.
I use the term mistresses lightly because all the evidence points to these women being at best regular booty calls and more likely a transaction less than hookers.Still, some sisters seem offended that Tiger chose not to use or exploit any black women. C’mon ladies, we can do better than this. We have Michelle Obama, the first black First Lady in the White House. Mrs. Obama is setting the standard for grace and elegance. Even the First Lady of France can’t keep up. Last year Disney released the Princes and the Frog, the first Disney animation featuring a black princess. (Although it bothers me that she spent most of the movie as a frog). So what if we didn’t make Tiger’s skank ho list. What type of woman aspires to be one of many women who have slept with a known married man?Sometimes as black women we are so obsessed with black men who have white female mates that we can’t think straight. We take personally the individual choices of men we don’t even know. It wasn’t that long ago that black women railed against stereotypes of being sexually exotic or promiscuous. So I say don’t berate, celebrate and be thankful that No black women made Tiger’s skank ho list.
At the University of South Florida in the late 1980s I was the only black person on the school’s daily newspaper staff. In 1990 I became only the second black sports writer in the history of the Pittsburgh Press. Often I found myself the only female in the press box. But none of that prepared me for the challenges associated with waking up every morning, the only black person in my household.
Raising White Girls is about the relationship between me, a black woman and my two white step daughters. The situation begins with my marriage to their father and how instantly me, the outsider, becomes the primary caretaker for these two girls as they grow into young women. The story includes confrontations and revelations about marriage, divorce, race, gender and parenting. And then there’s a wedding.
In Raising White Girls I explore the true meaning of family, which transcends race, biology and even divorce. As I struggle as a parent and the girls try to adjust to my parenting our bond as a family grows deeper. Whether created through marriage, adoption or tragedy (as with death of primary caretakers), families endure through love, common goals and a shared interest in being a family. A family is more than who you are. A family is also how you are, with each other.
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Merlisa's blog is dedicated to exploring issues and events about women and race.
The blog is an extension of the memoir she is writing titled "Raising White Girls", the story of her relationship with her step-daughters.
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